Happy Birthday Son / Roger Ervin (Father`)
Tommorow won't be easy, but we find comfort in knowing you are in such a better place. We will find out in our own time son why you had to leave us so early, but I will be waiting for another big strong hug and a smile when I get there. Life goes on down here, we struggle with your loss still, it has been so hard on us without you, your sister has been doing so much better, she wishes you were here for advice. I won't go on and on son just know how much we love and miss you and as always save OL DAD a place. Close
Your 19th birthday is only days away (Sept. 19, 2006) / Beth Ervin (Mom)Read >>
Your 19th birthday is only days away (Sept. 19, 2006) / Beth Ervin (Mom)
Dear Son, I am so glad your free from the trials, tribulations and tests of this world. I'm so thankful what you accepted the Lord into your heart at 14 years of age. It changes your life tremendously. You had some stumbles here or there but you dusted yourself off, picked yourself up and kept on going. The Lord and us as your parents and family were always very proud of you. You were such a great person: tender hearted, easy going, encourager, motivator, team leader, faithful friend, great personality, class clown, older brother to lots of your class mate girls. When you gave your heart to someone it was 100%. You always told your daddy and I that you were a one woman man. You proved to us you were ready for a relationship when you brought Samantha home to visit. Sam was like a female version of you in many ways, athletic, courageous, tenderhearted, beautiful, full of loving kindness and saved. The two of you were unseperable from December of 2004 until you passed away in May of 2005. Those last months were the happiest of your life, sams and our family. You made a valiant fight to stay while in intensive care but eventually the Lord felt it was you time to go. I don't think your passing away the day after Same went hom from the hospital was coincidence. I believe once you realized she was going to be fine that you knew the Lord and her family would take care of her if he took you. I think theres some secret thing between you and the lord is my you went on home with Jesus. I know in my heart you would have never left your family and Sam without a really good reason. Your daddy and I don't ask God why, we know will find out when we reach glory. Until then, Lord tell Jeremy (JD) Dean how much we love and miss him. He blessed all our lives more than words could tell. Lord, please have JD pray for us until we are together with him in glory. We love you son with all our hearts and souls. Lord, please give Jeremy (JD) Dean a big Birthday Party with lots pumpkin pie, vanilla ice cream and frosty A&W rootbeer. Love and Prayers Always from your mom
Missing You / Roger Ervin (Father)
The first game came and went son then the second, it's just not the same, I catch myself straining my eyes to try and find you on the field, but in my heart I know your not there. Someone came to me at the game the other night and told me that one of the teams we will be playing on the road has a young man named Jeremy Irvin, I'm not sure how it's spelled, but they said he was an outstanding player, they gave me a heads up in case we made it to the game and they started calling that name. I know you can see the new field and I hope you like it I know you would as always save ol DAD a placel. Close
I still love you / Sam Lorton (Girlfriend)
Hey baby.. i couldn't sleep and i wanted to let you know how much i still miss you. There is so much i want to say and do, but all that seems to come out is i will always love you and no one will ever take your place. There will be others come and go, but no one will be you. There will never be another us. A love so true and real. I am forever blessed to have had you in my life. Thank you for everything you gave me and everything you were to me. Oh how i could go on for days.. but you know all this because i talk to you all the time. I will see you soon. I LOVE YOU*
I love you / DeeAnna Ervin (Sister(and always will be) )Read >>
I love you / DeeAnna Ervin (Sister(and always will be) ) He bubba how are u? well i'm so totally missing you it is really hard down here without you for me.......nothing seems right anymore not evenplaying sports. I want to play sports to make mom and dad happy cause i'm never happy and there happy like most the time. so i dunno what to do anymore i feel like crap everyday even in highschool, it jus doesn't seem right and its hard to understand things put before me, but bubba i miss you so very very much and i hate it that i didn't get to see my #58 graduate but i guess it was your choice to go so i dunno i wish u were here though to help me out wit boy problems and stuff to give me advice but i want u to know that even though your gone don't forget bout me and even though we fought the whole time u were here jus know that i love u and always will and ill never forget bout you. i lov you Jeremy Dean Ervin...............bye bubba hope to see ya soon.Close
Football Starting Again / Roger Ervin (Father)
School has started again son and football has started as well, it seems so strange not to be able to discuss the upcoming season with you, I know you are with us everywhere we go and you will always be with us, but you are so truly missed down here on earth. It will be hard watching the boys play and not reminiscing about past seasons and all the years you worked so hard to get where you were. Ol DAD will never forget you, I think about you every minute of everyday and I miss you as much now as ever, as I always say save OL DAD a place when it's my time I will be looking to see your smiling face. Close
Bubba not a day goes by that i don't think of you. You are always on my mind in whatever i do, i just can't help but to think about you. You know bubba i can't wait till i get to see ya again i miss u so much......and now your gone it kills me everday to look at your picture's cause i know your not there only the shell u lived in, and i want u back here so bad so u can see how good i am doing on sports and school and to see me finish highschool and graduate, just know bub that u will always be in my heart forever. i love u and miss u deeply..........Love your sister DeeAnna AKA Jd's little sis.
Missing You / Roger Ervin (Father)
Summer is almost over and football practices will be starting very soon, you would be so happy with the new track and football field son, it's just like you told me it would be before you left us. I'm going to make as many football games as I can son, it's not the same without you here, but stephs brother is playing and I want to support him and the others as well just like you would if you were here. As I always say save OL DAD a place, I can't wait to see your smiling face, but I know it will be in Gods time not ours, Love DAD Close
I wanted to stop by to say I believe everything you have said about God and destiny. I'm not sure if it's because God chose my son also, but I do feel the world is in a spiritual evolution and God is chosing the very best to help him lead us through it. Jeremy was/IS a fine young man and someone to be proud of forever. Not everyone gets to die a hero. Believe that he lives, no matter what religion you are or even if you have no religion, because the spirit lives on even if you don't believe. Our time on this earth is but a mere moment in time. Jeremy is with you always, guding you and leading you and sending you signals to let you know he is still here.
Missing You / Roger Ervin (Father)
Not a day goes by son that you aren't on my mind, not being able to talk to you or see you has really changed my life, I really think I miss you more now. Please keep your brother in your prayers and ask God to keep his hand on him, I know you already know about this, but he was severely burnt in a bout with a can of gasoline trying to burn trash, he's gonna be ok, but he had to have skin grafts on his arms, he's been in the hospital since it happened but hopefully he will get to come home this coming week. As always save Ol DAD a place, I can't wait to see your smilin face and give ya a big hug. Close
Missing You / Roger Ervin (Father)
I went out Memorial day and put flowers on your grave son this is not what I believed I would be doing at this time in my life. I thought we would be celebrating your graduation and going to college, playing college football, planning your future and watching you grow old, but things in life change. You and I talked about this so much because of the other young men that were lost in your school, now I have to face what we discussed. I'm doing my best to cope with your loss son, I could probably do better, but I'm doing my best. After having surgery on both hands they aren't doing good and it's painful just to write now. I'm growing old and the saddest part is you won't be here to aggravate me about it like you use to, your sister misses you something aweful, she wears your letter jacket about everywhere even when it's ninety degrees outside. You mean so much to her and to us, you touched so many lives in your short time here, I come here every day son, to read what others have sent or written, I know it's probably not good for me to do this everyday, but I feel as though I need to in order to help me make it through the day. I love and miss you more with each passing day, I look forward to hugging your neck when it's my time to come home, love DAD Close
Graduation/ Roger Ervin (Father)
Last night was so hard son, but God got us through it, it was so hard seeing your letter jacket wrapped around an empty chair. I know you were there with us all along spiritually, but I would have much rather had you here physically. Someone gave us the tape out of the camera from the night of the accident, the camera I knew was destroyed, but someone had kept the tape. It had all of you on the last night you were with us not long before the accident. Thankfully the accident itself isn't on the tape. We made it through son, this was the last of several hurdles for us to get over on the road to coping with your abscence. As always save Ol Dad a place. Close
Missing You / Roger Ervin (Father)
As I often do son I sit and stare at your pictures on the wall, wondering what you would be doing right now, where you would be, the plans you would be making for after graduation. I don't know when this will all become reality, it still seems as though I could just wake up and everything would be ok, but it's not. Graduation is this Friday night, I know you will be there with us every step of the way son, as always save ol Dad a place, I can't wait to see your smiling face, I know it's in Gods time that we will see each other again, until then, ol Dad loves ya Close
I haven't been able to look at this sight until today, May 7, 2005. Yesterday was the first anniversay of my son's death. Our family has been fractured by the loss of our son. The first year has been a struggle full of tears and prayers. Its very comforting to know that my son was saved and is now in heaven praying for us and cheering us on from that great grand stand of witnesses. Each day has been a struggle for me but I've never asked God why. God never makes mistakes and I believe there was a reason for JD going on to heaven when he did. JD lived a passionate life here on earth winning many worldly accollades. I'm sure he's in heaven living a more passionate life for the Lord. JD's having a blast in heaven. I refuse to let this trajedy destroy my family, its not what JD would have wanted either. Its made each one of our family members re-evaluate their priorities and our life's goals. Our strength, our survival, our determination to not give up, is what gives God Glory and helps JD's death not to have been in vein as far as its impact on our lives. JD's up there praying for his family and I refuse to fail him by letting anything cause division in my family. JD wouldn't want his death to be a dark shadow over the rest of our life. He would want us to celebrate his life and rejoice that he's free from the trials and tribulations of earth. The bible says there are no tears in heaven and no sorrow given, so JD's not missing or crying for us, he's at peace and busy doing the work of the Lord and enjoying the time with his friends and relatives that were there before him. JD's experiencing perfect peace, something had to find or experience here on earth. One day on earth is as a thousand years to the Lord, so it will seem like no time has passed to JD before we see him again. And the word also says that our lifes are like a vapor that quickly vanishes away, so I believe it wont be long before we're with him again. Continue to walk the walk and fight the enemy with the God's word. No weapon formed against my family can prosper and every tongue that rises up in judgement against our family shall be condemned. Perfect love casts out torment and I refuse to let my son's death detroy my health and my mental well being. I have the mind of Christ and can do all things through him that strengthens me. Put your faith in the word of God and not your feelings and you'll make it through the loss day by day. May God Bless other mothers and family members who are reading this. God Bless. God's word never returns void.
Anniversary of your leaving us / Roger Ervin (Father)
Tommorow is the first anniversary of your leaving us son, it will be a very tough day on all of us. We know your in such a better place, but we miss you so terribly, if we could only talk to you one more time. Your mother and I went your graveside today and put some roses out, it still seems as though this is a nightmare that I wished I could just wake up from. As the day comes and goes you will be forever in our hearts, at the front of our minds, we love you more everyday and we celebrate the wonderful life that you had while you were with us. As always save ol DAD a place, see ya soon. Close
Anniversary of Accident / Roger Ervin (Father)
The day came and went son, we had a lot of the kids over that night to watch video of you and just sit around and fellowship. Most of the kids couldn't stay long they had other commitments, but it was good to see all of them again. Not all were able to come, but most were there. There were a lot of tears shed, a lot of memories told, some new some old, but one thing was sure it was hard on everyone. We went to the senior assembly Monday night, it too was very hard on us, all the seniors erupted in cheer when they showed your pic during the slide show at the end of the assembly. We still have another huge hurdle son, the sixth will be the anniversary of one year of your leaving us, also graduation will be coming up, I can't say I'm ready for either one. I love you more everyday and I miss you twice as much, remember save ol DAD a place. Close
Anniversary coming up / Roger Ervin (Father)
In less than four days the anniversary of the accident will be here son and shortly thereafter the anniversary of your leaving us. I'm not sure how I will handle the next several months, I feel so fragile right now, it's like I can't seem to rise above the pain, I know God will sustain me, but it really seems he is testing me right now. I'm really frustrated as to why you had to leave us, I know your in a better place and I wouldn't call you back for anything in the world, but it seems so unfair to us. Graduation is coming and I promised the kids I would come, but I really don't think I will be able to go down after they graduate and say goodbye, I just don't feel I can do it. I miss you more daily, I wish you were here, I miss all the good times, I miss everything. Don't give up on Ol Dad, I'm gonna be just fine, just going through a rough spot right now. You just keep my place till I get there, Love DAD Close
Hey JD, Just wanted to say hey! Its getting close to Keira's first birthday now and I can only think about how much I want her to know you. Everytime we see your mom dad or sis. Or when my little brother stops by to see the kids. Logan and Keirstie ask about you everytime we mention Papa Roger or Mama Beth to them. I have tried so many times to explain to them where you are and why. Keirstie is even jelous of you because you get to meet Jesus. She actually cried about it. She wanted to know why she couldn't go with you. I tried to explain but she is just not old enough to understand. I am always afraid about what she will say in front of Roger, Beth, or Dee. Speaking of Dee, you would be so proud of her JD. She has grown up so much. Its hard to remember the little girl we were used to. Your brother tried to look at this site the other day and he couldn't even read the first page. He teared up and shut down the computer. He talks about you every once in a while, but you and I know how hard it is for him to show his feelings about anything but it is easy to see how much he misses you. Well JD I will see you soon. We Love You very much and miss you a lot!!! See You Soon, Crystal
Thinking of you and your loved ones ... / Michele Haerling (Patricia's Sister )
Dearest Roger and Family -
You are in our thoughts and prayers. It has been a little over 14 months since the loss of my beautiful sister Patricia - and the pain is still there. I know the one year of losing JD is right around the corner and my family and I want you to know you are all in our thoughts and prayers. I must tell you that when the one year came it was like re-living the intial pain all over again - but you will get through it. Hold on to those you love and be strong. JD is a beautiful young man - he will always be a beautiful young man and you will be with him someday. You still have a purpose here on earth - and JD would only want you to keep on going. It is hard - we all struggle from day to day. You are not alone - we are here with you. Reading about your son and his accomplishments and what he did they night he was taken - says a lot about not only him - but it says a lot about his family. From my family to yours - we send thoughts, prayers, and hugs. We will be with JD and Patricia again someday.
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